I got a good lecturing today. One of the few nurses who I have known for years whom I never particularly cared for personally decided she was going to really get into why I don't have kids yet. Fortunately for her I was in a good mood. Also fortunately I do respect her as a nurse. She however is quite abrasive, terribly nosey and really annoying.
Yes I am the last person in my group practice to not have children. Yes there have been 3 maternity leaves within the past year in a half and none of them have been mine. Fully aware thanks.
nurse: "Doesn't being around all these babies just make you want to have your own".
me: "actually I've been pretty busy working lately" (avoiding)
nurse: "But don't you want a family of your own?"
me: "sure at some point" (deferring)
nurse: "you know, you either have your fun now or you have your fun later - if you don't have your kids soon you'll be too old to enjoy life when the kids finally move out of the house."
Me : starting to get annoyed, trying to focus on my charting, not responding (ignoring)
nurse being persistent: "You shouldn't wait too long - you know how these women have difficulty if you get too old."
Me: "Yep I know" with a fake-o smile and then I proceeded to escape into a patients room. (leaving)
It was like every terrible intrusive stupid question I've ever heard was all in the same darn conversation.
So I ask this question: AT WHAT POINT ARE YOU ALLOWED TO BE RUDE TO PEOPLE WHO ARE BEING RUDE BEYOND BELIEF?
I know she's socially inept. I have known this for a long time. But is it ever okay for me to look at her square in the face and tell her the truth and just try to make her feel as bad as she has made me feel? Some people are ignorant and have never known of anybody that was infertile. But this is a high-risk nurse who takes care of pregnant patients every day - there is no excuse. Don't get me wrong - this is nothing that I haven't heard before. And at this point its a little like water off a ducks back. It doesn't bother me nearly as much as it used to. But am I justified to tell her to go fly a kite?
Seriously I just spent thousands upon thousands of dollars to get fairly ill so I could have a 38% chance at conceiving this cycle and I am so freaking thrilled about that because that is such a better chance than I have EVER had before. I have never been so hopeful in the process and she just had to re-hash everything all at once. Its just a little bit of a downer.
I just hope she't not working tomorrow because I am still so annoyed there may be a few things that inadvertently fly out of my mouth if I am not careful.