Monday, March 21, 2011

Thank god for best friends

My best friend is the opposite of me - she is too fertile.  The type of woman who has 2 beautiful daughters who began as a whoops.  Her marriage and life almost fell apart as a result, but she persevered and took care of her family before she considered herself.  You would think that she would be the last one able to relate to all this, but instead she is the most understanding of any non-blogger I have talked to.

She has had a lot of struggles in her own life, but when she calls and asks "how are you" she sincerely wants to know, and she listens to the real answer.  I don't have to put on a happy face, she justifies my feelings and offers condolence and support.  A good friend is hard to find right now, and while she will never experience this problem, she takes on the burden of some of my pain.

I am lucky.  She made me smile for the first time in days.  The bounce backs get harder each time, but its nice to know I have help from an unlikely source.

Thank you for all your support in the blogosphere.  I will feel better soon - I'm climbing out of the valley.


  1. best friends are great they always seem to have an infinite supply of magic shovels to help dig you out of whatever proverbial hole you find yourself stuck in.

  2. What a wonderful support to have. I'm so glad you have her. Sometimes those "real" people are what you need.

    Thinking of you.

  3. I have a friend just like that. Her babies weren't whoopses, but when she decided she wanted to get pregnant, she did. The very next month.

    But she has been with me every step of the way through this crappiness of infertility and is my best support. I am amazed at how empathetic she can be when my babymaking reality is so far from hers.

    I guess it just shows how much she loves me. :)

  4. What a beautiful friendship! I think that there might be some overlap in life crisis between getting pregnant when you aren't ready and not being able to get pregnant when you are ready. Keep taking good care of yourself!

  5. That is very awesome. I have a friend that got pregnant after having sex one time during her first fertile window off bcp. She has rooted me on every step of the way and is genuinely concerned about our outcome. Thank God for those friends and all the cybersupport we get!!