They are probably very nice people with very nice children, but I find their number of children obscene and their attitude about it naive. Is there a twinge of jealousy for the fertility that she has - yes, absolutely. How wonderful it must be to be able to have the family of your dreams. But really . . . 20?
They just keep re-iterating that it is up to god with really irritates me because if it was up to god I would never be able to have a family at all. Is that because they are so wonderful and god loving and I am such a terrible person that I am not worthy of a child? It just accentuates the unfairness of it all. The further problem that I have with it is that they seem to keep saying is that god will tell them when to stop - but things didn't go so well last time with the very preterm birth of their youngest daughter due to preeclampsia. If it were not for good medical care - there would have been no mom and baby at the end of it. Perhaps that was the message.
I am really hoping for the sake of their unborn child that everything goes well for them and that it is born healthy and mom does well, but if I was her OB I would have advised her against another pregnancy with her possible complications and multiple previous sections. I understand that some people don't believe in birth control, but I am pretty sure that abstinence is an option endorsed by the big guy. (At least thats what they taught me in religion class growing up.)
Sure these are my personal values and they have theirs and there is no right or wrong answer here. This is just how it makes me feel coming from the totally opposite perspective. I wish them well, but I am rooting for the little couple more.