Sunday, February 19, 2012

The name game

So we decided that since there may be an impending arrival we better get some things ready.

furniture - done
carseat - check
pack of diapers - can get at the store later
name - uuuugughhhhh!

My husband and I have been working on a name since she became viable - but literally we couldn't get it down further than a one page single spaced word document. So we sat in the hospital room the first night and narrowed.

When you have been infertile and you have watched everyone else have babies - there are a considerable amount of names that your friends have already taken.  There have always been names that I've thought I could name my daughter - but slowly and surely over the past few years several of them have been picked off by friends more naturally prone to procreation.

But the ones that have been picked up since I got pregnant just seem unfair.  There is a name that we have liked from the beginning but then around christmas we saw one of our old friends (not too close - someone we see yearly) and their new baby has that name.  This name is in the top 10 in popularity so I think its fine to use - but my husband just doesn't feel right about it.

Fast forward tot he hospital the other night we actually picked a favorite and actually got a little attached to it.  The problem . . . a really good friend from college (whom I have not spoken to in the past 9 months mostly out of negligence on my part and new-mommyhood on hers) named her kid that name.  I had completely forgotten because her daughter has only been referred to by nickname since she was born, and I cant say I've been too smart in the past few days because of how not-well I have been feeling.  I figured it out about a day later and now the hubbie and I are disappointed all over again.

You would think that with my 10,000 names baby book that we could come up with lots of names - and maybe we could - but there is a certain amount of obsession to it at this point.  It has to be perfect - we've put so much into her already we want to make sure that we love her name at least a fraction of how much we already love her.

So now we have a shortened list to choose from - I think at this point we are just hoping for more time so we can get excited about another one.


  1. Naming a baby is THE hardest thing to do!!! Good luck!!

  2. wishing you guys hit on just the right name. it is not easy at all to choose!


  3. Naming is a tough game indeed. In year 2 or 3 of our infertility a friend not only took one of our first names, but the second name too. Their daughter is now 8 I think and we rarely ever see them.

    Our names have literally been picked for almost 10 yrs. Our daughter, Elizabeth Alexandra, lovingly known simply as Elly is almst 2.5. We hope that one day we will get a chance to meet another angel, a little girl by the name of Emilie Lyne.

    With that said, last year when pregnant with our little boy, we had a terrible time with names. We found out we were having a boy, the following day i was put on bed rest. We came up with a name, then 6 days later he was gone.

    Although we never had a chance to fall in love with the name, it just fit.

    I'm sure you'll find, in the end, no matter what you choose, it will be the right name for YOUR angel. There are a million names out there, but it is not the name that defines the person. It's the person who defines the name.

    Good luck.


  4. Naming is so hard! My problem right now is that all the names we come up with remind me of some student or another. It's getting ridiculous. Good luck with it!!

  5. I just wrote a very similar blog the other day. I pretty much said how does anyone decide on a name for their child!? And I also wrote about friends and family choosing names you liked or may have picked, but they chose years ago. Let's hope our children don't remain nameless ,lol. Glad your contractions have stopped and that she is still cooking away in there. Ive added you to my blog list and look forward to reading more. :)