tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6095109953510642934.post3471366291392242085..comments2024-02-17T00:22:45.666-08:00Comments on The Infertile Gynecologist: my biggest regretThe Infertile Gynecologisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15439208911716498866noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6095109953510642934.post-55497472466285985112011-02-01T10:32:35.546-08:002011-02-01T10:32:35.546-08:00Hi there. I stumbled across your blog and just wan...Hi there. I stumbled across your blog and just wanted to say hi. I am a nurse practitioner so I know how it is to go through this as a medical professional. I work in internal medicine, so I'm not surrounded by preggos like you are, but I know how hard it is to hand over the control. Good luck! I'll be starting IVF next month; it'll be our first.chloe blankenhornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01653652734558658756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6095109953510642934.post-53833336806840326282011-01-31T10:42:00.025-08:002011-01-31T10:42:00.025-08:00It sucks you have the knowledge that is provoking ...It sucks you have the knowledge that is provoking the guilt. The average person - even the average IFer - wouldn't know that what that surgeon did and the surgery was going to be an issue in the future or that it possibly wasn't necessary. You're in a unique position and you shouldn't feel guilty - even though that's no solace. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.Oakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03508888941534052595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6095109953510642934.post-26878964193801550022011-01-31T10:18:39.668-08:002011-01-31T10:18:39.668-08:00Ughhhh! How frustrating. I am sorry that you'r...Ughhhh! How frustrating. I am sorry that you're having guilt and emotional pain over all of this. My thoughts are with you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6095109953510642934.post-23813691856929981952011-01-31T08:11:56.031-08:002011-01-31T08:11:56.031-08:00Guilt is a bitch. I find myself thinking "if...Guilt is a bitch. I find myself thinking "if I knew now..." quite a bit. But, you did the best with what you had at the time. I have a really hard time not beating myself up for the past. But, there really isn't much point in doing that.<br /><br />Have you ever read Vonnegut's Timequake? Everyone has to go back and relive their lives for several years and, knowing what they know now, they're not able to make ANY changes. I think that would be the ultimate torture.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05382638658909144208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6095109953510642934.post-39122419375882742652011-01-31T04:48:29.963-08:002011-01-31T04:48:29.963-08:00I am so sorry that you have so much lingering guil...I am so sorry that you have so much lingering guilt about the surgery - the physical hurdles are enough to deal with without the guilt. Of course the guilt is unwarranted and of course you did what made sense at the time and was the most reasonable and rational choice at the time. Logically, I am pretty sure that you already know that, though. Sending many thoughts and prayers that great things happen for you soon and that your current misgivings about the previous surgery will soon become irrelevant!A.https://www.blogger.com/profile/00949343025406168591noreply@blogger.com